Are You Pulled by Vision or Pushed by Circumstance?

There is nothing more meaningful in the world than the freedom that comes with shifting your perspective away from circumstance and toward vision.¬†As a life coach, there is nothing more exciting than watching this shift become a reality for a client. It’s like a switch has been flipped and going back to the old ways of thinking seems ridiculous.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you can simply sit back and envision what it is that you want in life and wake up to it tomorrow morning. It means you’re going to have to put in work. You’re going to have to get crystal clear on what drives you in this life, what gets you excited and what leaves you feeling energized at the end of the day and looking forward to more the next day. You’re going to have to pay attention to what drains you and what you naturally feel compelled to avoid or run away from. You’re going to have to muster a little patience as the vision unfolds and allow room for some vulnerability. You’ll have to get really good at having challenging conversations and drawing boundaries that allow you to spend more time and energy on what matters most to you. It means you are going to have to see it, take steps day-by-day toward it, and show up at every moment with the foundation for everything that you do being firmly rooted in your vision.

It’s so easy to get stuck in circumstance. I get it. Humans spend much of their energy telling stories of hurdles they’ve overcome and hardships they’ve endured on their journey. I want to be clear that I am in no way discounting where you are, where you’ve been, or the things that feel challenging for you. Part of making the shift from being pushed by circumstance to being pulled by vision is knowing precisely what is keeping you stuck, naming it, and finding a way around or through it. Making this perspective shift happens more fluidly when you are aware throughout the day whether vision or circumstance is driving your thoughts, words, actions and choices. I am asking you to practice spending much less time talking about your circumstances and more time talking about your vision. The more you talk about it, the more you live it and the more you live it, the closer it gets to becoming your reality.

Perhaps you’re reading this and thinking, “yeah, okay – this all sounds fabulous but what do I do if I don’t really have a vision?” No problem! You and I can work on that together. Through outlining what your core values are, reflecting on things that get you excited and what you do that keeps you engaged in this world, we’ll get you there. You will be astounded at the difference you feel when you make the shift toward living your life pulled by what it is that you want to see happen or what it is that you want to contribute to the world or even just what you want to feel like when you rest your head at the end of the day. It’s potent and it’s attractive and it fuels you in ways you would have never imagined.

Circumstances push us around. They tell us who we are (even if it’s untrue) and they tell us that there are limits to what we can do to change that. Circumstances keep us small even though we have unlimited capacity to grow and thrive. They tell us there is no other way, but there are plenty.

Vision on the other hand pulls us toward what it is that we most desire out of this life. Vision allows for space to learn and grow while we constantly work toward¬†outcomes that feel like our own personal definition of success. It is the energy that carries us through the day and leaves others wondering why we seem so light and alert and prepared to take on the day’s task list. Vision is what we can lean on when times do get hard or when, out of habit, we default to spending more time in circumstance. Vision knows that circumstances exist but that they’re simply chapters to our life stories. Vision knows that we can close one chapter and move on to the next with a clean piece of paper and a pen in hand. It knows that we write our own story and nobody else gets to take that from us.

Circumstance is self-centered, deflating and disheartening.

Vision is motivating. Vision is powerful. Vision is often rooted in service to others which directly removes us from the stuck-ness of circumstance.

Circumstances are temporary truths that can make us feel lost in life.

Vision is a personal compass that has been calibrated by your own clarity and can lead you anywhere you want to go.

Does this sound like a shift that you would like to put into practice and eventually master? Are you intrigued at the thought of vision being your guiding principle and making circumstance a thing of the past?

Yeah, I thought so. Let’s get to work.

All My Love,

~b

 

About Brittany Luddington

Brittany is a certified life coach and an author of reflections on living life on purpose and using passion and excitement to guide our journey. She is a mother, a wife, a coffee enthusiast as well as a dabbler in yoga, meditation and an avid collector of spirituality/self-help books. It really rocks her world to engage with people who are fully alive and in love with their own life.