Is Your Passion Rooted in Fear or Love?

Isn’t the world of politics just fascinating right now? Perhaps that’s not the adjective that you would have chosen for it, but I am rather intrigued at how our country’s political structure is shifting. I’m even further fascinated at the stirring of consciousness that has occurred amongst the general population. The answer to fear-based political shift has been love-filled action.

To some degree, our government has more power in some areas and less in others than we want to think about and yet here we are taking time to talk about things that matter to us with our friends and family and through social media in unprecedented ways. Of course, being behind a screen allows for much less of a filter in some cases, but it really is inspiring to watch people engage in discourse about things that matter to their personal life.

Here’s the trick though, so much of what is coming out in the newsfeed and comment section is fear based. Spend some time with me and you’re bound to hear me talk about the fact that all feelings, choices and actions can be boiled down to one of two things: Fear or Love. It’s true! I know it seems overly simplistic but look at it this way:

Jealousy – Are you feeling love toward your partner or fear of your partner’s ability to hurt you?

Rage – Are you feeling fear of someone committing a perceived injustice to you or are you feeling  compassion and love for why they may have done such a thing?

Worry – Are you feeling love toward your ability to handle anything that comes your way, or are you feeling fear of the unknown?  

Envy – Are you feeling a fear of missing out or are you feeling love toward someone else’s abundance?

Try it with just about any emotion and when the layers are peeled away, love and fear are what we have left to work with. Once you’ve figured out a way to really grasp this concept, your life will change. In any and all moments that you struggle with a circumstance, you can think to yourself, “am I coming from fear or love right now?” Then, simply pick which one is more important to you or is more beneficial in the situation and go with it.

There are going to be moments when fear is going to override your preference to come from a place of love. If you are on a date and the person you are with is sending off red flags left and right with you, you can come from love at a later time – by all means use your fear to take care of yourself. If you think something might be going on with your child’s health, while you will obviously continue to love them through anything, the reality is you should absolutely follow your gut instinct (which can sometimes be driven by fear) and get that kiddo to the clinic. Fear has it’s place and when used properly it can be extremely helpful, even life saving.

When it comes to social or political matters, we still have this choice. When we look at our interactions online do we feel like they are coming from fear or love? Ranting at a friend that you haven’t seen since high school about a topic that you care about is probably not going to get them to see things your way. However, sending them love and being kind to them and perhaps just not engaging at all in this conversation from a perspective of rage or disgust will likely take you  so much farther in your cause.

Fear closes off, shuts down, cancels out. Love opens up, blossoms possibility, creates common ground and stirs up other options. 

If you need to take more time with this, I totally get it. I feel like I’ve spent well over a decade fully integrating what this means and using it to my advantage. It’s cool, use it and play with it and see what comes up for you. No judgement, just consider a different way to see the world around you. At the very least, start by figuring out what feels better to you.

Is buying a coffee to ‘pay it forward’ to the person behind you in line putting a smile on your face and a pep in your step or is spending much of the day trying to prove someone wrong on social media really lighting up your spirit? When you feel good about something, your life gets bigger and your ability to shift our world toward love intensifies in a really beautiful way. If you’ve got a furrow or you roll your eyes during anything you choose to do, that’s a sure-fire sign that your world is getting smaller through that action.

We’re all given only so much energy every day to work with. Why not take this fear/love logic and apply it to where you spend your energy in creating a more loving and sustainable world? Give the comment sections a break for a day and instead write to your representatives, donate to a cause you care about or call a non profit and ask about volunteer opportunities. There is a good chance that the person you last engaged in a heated debate with online will still think similarly 10 years from now, but 10 weeks from now that non profit’s funds could be on the chopping block. Put your power and your energy where it will have the most impact.

And it doesn’t stop with you, my love. Imagine that each of these acts that are rooted in love are water droplets and acts of fear are fire. What is a massive amount of water droplets if not a mighty ocean? And sure, a large amount of fear based actions could burn down a forest. But darling, never forget what water does to fire.

Which is more powerful now? Love or fear?

Without question, the events we’ve witnessed recently have been shocking and disheartening. But, if you really sit back and look around at what is happening, you will notice there is a powerful awakening and awareness unfolding in people.The silver lining in all of this chaos is that we are realizing our capacity to transform humanity for the better every single day. We belong to each other. We owe it to each other to show up fully awake and ready to do what needs to be done. Collectively, we are unstoppable.

If you find yourself struggling to shift your energy in a way that feels right and meaningful to you, book a consult with me to see if we can’t find ways to ensure that you are using your precious energy in ways that are guaranteed to change our world.

All My Love,

~ b

About Brittany Luddington

Brittany is a certified life coach and an author of reflections on living life on purpose and using passion and excitement to guide our journey. She is a mother, a wife, a coffee enthusiast as well as a dabbler in yoga, meditation and an avid collector of spirituality/self-help books. It really rocks her world to engage with people who are fully alive and in love with their own life.