It was school election time and the secretary position was calling my name.
The first time I ran for student government didn’t end well for me. I came home, threw myself on my daybed sobbing and told my mom that I had lost. This memory of devastation and drama played repeatedly in the back of my mind but I decided to give it a go again.
I wish I had known at the time that it’s much more useful to be pulled by a vision, than to be pushed by circumstance. Thankfully, my parents were always teaching me that failure is never actually failure if you get up and try again.
They were way ahead of their time in teaching emotional intelligence on that one. Thanks, guys!
Mom and Dad helped me pick out poster materials and start thinking about my campaign platform. We sat down to write my speech and make the posters and my mom asked me, “Why not run for president?”
I thought, “Um, no.”
3 reasons why I thought I would have been out of my mind to do so:
- If I couldn’t make secretary, who was I to think I could be president?
- I would be running against the class clown dude that everyone loved – (a friend of mine.)
- I would be running against the prettiest and most popular girl in our school – (also a friend of mine.)
Oh, the social pressure of 6th grade. I’m glad I didn’t know at the time that it would only get more complex as I got older.
My parents were also raising me to believe that I could do absolutely anything I put my mind to.The election was my chance to put this thinking to good use.
Screw the secretary position – I’m going for President.
So, there I was on speech day, all of 11 years old standing in front of a massive crowd of kids. Once I got over the initial jitters, I was in absolute heaven. I LOVED every minute of being at the mic, trying to make the case as to why I was their best choice to lead.
Who knows how well I actually delivered my speech. In my head, I was a rock star at the top of my game. I delivered that speech like a pro.
It came easily to me and it lit me up inside to be doing it.
I was in my flow.
Those few minutes at the podium are etched so clearly in my memory. How lucky to be at such a young age and to get familiar with where my power was, and how important it was to use it to create change.
My future career was solidified right then and there. I wanted to make an impact on people, to be helpful, and to lead.
Sitting at my desk that afternoon and stroking my lucky troll doll’s hair with enough nervous energy to power a city, my name was announced as the new student council president.
Flash forward to my undergrad program – I discovered my passion for writing as a way to add value to the world. I completed a 4-year program in print journalism and women’s studies. I worked as a 911 dispatcher for fire/police while I steadied my perspective on which approach to being helpful would work best for me. 5 years later, I upped the ante with a Master’s Degree in Social Work and dedicated about 10 years to the domestic violence and sexual assault advocacy field.
So at 11 years old, I gave a speech and those 4 minutes gave me a glimpse at my purpose in this lifetime. But finding flow, and growing within it is ever-evolving work for us humans. We live in a society that tells us we need to know what we want to be when we grow up, and that linear thinking goes against everything we are made of. Flow is something that changes with us throughout the years.
If you’re one of those people who still struggles with “what do I want to do?” – you’ll find your flow in defining how you want to feel with the work that you do. The rest is just figuring out where you can do the things that make you feel the way you want to feel.
I didn’t know in 6th grade that I’d be doing advocacy, outreach and training work. During those years, I had to figure out how to find flow within my message and my approach. I was talking about traumatic information and navigating that in front of a crowd was challenging. It took me years, but once I realized that my intention was to get people to understand how profoundly important their role in supporting survivors was, I was able to shine within my flow.
My flow now is helping people get into their flow not just to improve their own experience in this world, but to change the world in ways that are bigger than us.
One of my all time favorite quotes is:
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” ~ Howard Thurman
Flow makes you feel alive. When you feel alive, you shine, and that’s precisely what this world needs.
I think the thing I’ve come to love the most about career and personal development coaching is that the impact never stops at the client. I love coaching people into bigger and better things for their life because it has a ripple effect that goes out into the world.
I selfishly think that my clients and I can change the world simply because I am going to show up, they are going to do the necessary work and for that – the world is going to be a better place.
You commit to flow and I help you find your flow, if you’re new to the game.
You decide your flow needs work and I support you in polishing your flow when it’s become clouded with boredom or a lack of enthusiasm.
You decide to flow on your own terms. I witness the power that comes with budding entrepreneurs navigating away from systems and toward making a living by their own definition.
Flow guides everything. Flow in your career is fundamental to feeling good about what you’re doing and where you’re going. Flow is something that comes fairly easily but still lights your fire. Flow is when people say to you, “You are so good at what you do. It’s like you know you are meant to be doing this.”
Flow is delicious and sweet and powerful and energizing and magnetic.
Flow is everything. Flow and shine are absolutely unstoppable and and utter joy to experience.
We begin on October 14th and there are 3 day/time options to fit your schedule.
I would be honored to see you there.
With big love and fierce enthusiasm toward your flow, you shiny being.